How I came to be a coach
For many years I wondered ‘what am I meant to be doing?’ At work I’d think, ‘I’m meant to be doing something more than this…’ I was waiting for someone else to see my potential and give me some kind of interesting opportunity.
I knew I had a lot to offer and a vague idea of what my qualities were, but I couldn’t settle on a direction. I enjoyed parts of what I did, but not all of it. I also knew I wanted to do something bigger, but what? I enjoyed encouraging other people to progress and develop in the way they wanted to, I couldn’t resist – I felt energised doing it. I loved to facilitate the beauty I could see in others, time flew whenever I did this. But then I’d wonder, 'what about me, what am I supposed to be doing?' This unsettled feeling led me to do all sorts of courses and training – I wanted to understand myself better and ‘figure the problem out’. And I did.
Everything fitted into place and made perfect sense because I hadn’t only spent years wondering about my purpose, I’d been wondering about other people’s purpose too. Helping others uncover their purpose in life is a true joy - the programme I offer has evolved over time and brings very real clarity.
Born in 1962, I grew up in Essex with my Mum, Dad and two older brothers.
I loved learning shorthand and typing but my first day as a secretary in London was a shock – I had always expected to love my work, and straight away I knew I didn't. Everyone around me was waiting for 5pm and pay day - soon I felt the same. It wasn’t how I thought work would be. I moved from job to job (lots of them), but each time I was more interested in my boss’s job than mine. I was bored but didn’t know what to do about it. After some years I took a job as a receptionist/typist in an estate agency and found I loved speaking to customers…
In time I became the Branch Manager of a large estate agency in Norwich, and loved it. Later I worked for a small housing construction company which was also great fun.
I married and as soon as my first son was born in 1993 I knew I wouldn’t be returning to work. Five years later we had our second son and I really enjoyed being a mum.
Our sons didn’t settle into State education, and as a result I found Steiner education. I did the Steiner Class Teacher Training course in London because I wanted to bring the Steiner philosophy into our home life. But this didn’t feel enough so in 2002 we moved to Canterbury so both sons could attend a Steiner school. This worked well for our older son, but after three years at the Steiner school our younger son left and was home educated.
When I look back on my life, I realise the most happy times have been when I have listened to my inner voice, the most miserable when I haven’t. This was never more so than when it came to education and our sons.
Later I returned to work part time. I didn’t want to return to estate agency as I wanted something that felt more meaningful to me, and I wanted to be available for my children.
I worked as a private home help for the elderly and learnt a great deal, including aspects of dementia. I enjoyed some areas of this work, but I knew I wanted something more.
For several years I worked in a further education college, mostly with 17 year olds. I worked in various departments supporting students with learning difficulties, also working with disadvantaged, vulnerable students who needed ‘skills for life and work’. Later I particularly enjoyed coaching and assessing the ‘Speaking and Listening’ part of the English iGCSE. Whilst I enjoyed some aspects of working in further education, I could feel the ‘whole picture’ wasn’t right for me.
In 2015 I discovered Dr Elaine Aron’s work and realised that I am a 'highly sensitive person.' If you feel you are too sensitive for the 'real world' please do look at her website: http://hsperson.com/